Trust yourself and your kids. Or live in torment.

Posted by Samantha on November 4, 2011 in Letting Go, Trust |

You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don’t trust enough.

Frank Crane, US Presbyterian Minister and author (1861 – 1928)

I suffered a bit of a trust crisis earlier this week.  It often happens towards the end of a holiday!

This kind of negative thinking tends to creep up on me without notice until one day NOTHING is ok.

At the higher order level, I doubt all the decisions I’m making.  And most fundamentally (and unhelpfully) I doubt that my kids are going to turn out ok.

I find I’m wondering if my boundaries are too tough.  Or too lenient.  Like, will my kids be socially ostracised if I don’t give in and buy a Wii?

I might begin to think that my life needs some major reorganising, like a move to New Zealand.  I’m not kidding.  That was my solution during last month’s crisis.  It lasted 24 hours.

In short, every so often, I get well and truly mired in a temporary but total lack of trust in the process of life.

I’ve come to accept that regular trust crises are a fairly normal part of being a 21st century parent.  Or at least they are for this particular parent.

While my crisis is happening, it feels like nothing less than living in torment.

Thankfully, there is a solution.  The solution is for me to return to a place of trust.

I am ok.  My kids are ok.  They are going to turn out just fine, as long as I trust them (and me) and keep my oars to myself.



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