“Get a move on!” Road safety and parental rudeness

Posted by Samantha on September 18, 2015 in Communication, Conditioning, Consequences, Safety, Worry

I pulled to a stop at a red traffic light the other day. Two teachers began ushering a long line of primary school kids across the road right in front of my car bonnet. All the children wore those bright-yellow high-visibility jackets and were around six and seven years old. The teachers were so close […]

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Who’s in charge in your family?

Posted by Samantha on June 4, 2015 in Boundaries, Communication, Connection, Expectations, Respect, Trust

On the third day there was a wedding in Cana of Galilee, and the mother of Jesus was there; and both Jesus and His disciples were invited to the wedding. When the wine ran out, the mother of Jesus said to Him, “They have no wine.” And Jesus said to her, “Woman, what does that […]

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Helping kids with big changes – moving house, school or country

Posted by Samantha on June 10, 2013 in Change, Communication, Feelings, Moving house

How should we prepare children for big moves – like a new school, or a new house, or living in a new country? There’s a lot of advice out there: keep children involved in the process, get them to imagine the change, have them keep a diary of all the steps along the way, talk […]

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Should we say sorry to our children?

Posted by Samantha on May 28, 2012 in Character, Communication, Connection, Mistakes, Parenting Dilemmas, Relationships, Respect

I was recently asked what my position on saying sorry to children was. Personally, I say sorry to my children on a regular basis.  I do this because like every parent, I make mistakes.  I still say and do things I regret and wish to make amends for.  Most recently, I did it yesterday at […]

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Time Out….For Parents

Posted by Samantha on May 10, 2012 in Anger, Communication, Connection, Empathy, Relationships, Self-care

Here’s a story from a Mum I was working with this week. This Mum’s attention was attracted by the sound of her 10 month old daughter crying.  She followed the sound and discovered her two daughters in the bathroom.  The baby’s head and shoulders were covered in talcum powder.  Her four year old daughter was […]

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Should you punish disrespectful behaviour?

Yesterday, my daughter taught me another great lesson. If we fail to discipline our children for being disrespectful, we are not serving them well. Nia tried Judo for the first time yesterday.  She loved it.  However, afterwards, she was cranky and rude to me.  I told her that hunger and tiredness were no excuse for […]


When other adults talk about YOUR children

Posted by Samantha on April 19, 2012 in Communication, Feelings, Parenting Dilemmas, Teasing

Do you ever connect with adult strangers at the expense of your children? Last week in the supermarket my chatty daughter struck up a conversation with the check-out assistant about her Easter holidays.  The assistant was being friendly when she said (half to my daughter and son, half to me) “I bet your Mummy will […]

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Mummy, am I a crybaby?

This was what my 7 year old son asked me last night just before bedtime.  I paused for long enough (was it half a second or was it longer?) to realise that my answer was going to be really significant and that it better cut the mustard. (To tell the truth I’m not totally sure […]

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Stop saying “Be good”, say “Have fun” instead

Posted by Samantha on November 12, 2011 in Change, Communication, Consequences, Expectations

This week I’ve been noticing how many parents are still using negative language with their children. This focus on the negative rather than the positive is rife in our society so it’s not at all surprising that it permeates our parenting as well. For the past three years I’ve been practicing transforming my language so […]

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