How should we handle teenage bullies?
Pupils at a school in Yorkshire have assaulted at least 6 of their fellow pupils in an unofficial “Kick a Ginger Kid Day”. The school have called the acts “deplorable” and have “acted swiftly to send a strong message”. It seems the pupils involved have been strongly reprimanded. Furthermore, there has been a school-wide warning […]
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Helping children withstand bullying
A 12-year-old boy killed himself in the UK this week. It’s been suggested that he may have hung himself because he was teased about being autistic. It’s not clear that he was autistic, just that he was being teased about it. Last year, a 15-year-old boy from Gloucestershire killed himself after teasing about being gay. […]
Mummy, am I a crybaby?
This was what my 7 year old son asked me last night just before bedtime. I paused for long enough (was it half a second or was it longer?) to realise that my answer was going to be really significant and that it better cut the mustard. (To tell the truth I’m not totally sure […]
Tags: bullying, character, communication, empathy, feelings, resilience, teasing
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